Confessions From a Former Friendless Girl
“You have distanced loved one and neighbor from me; darkness is my only friend.” Psalm 88:18 (HCSB)
There are times in life when we feel as if we don’t have one single friend in the world. Loneliness can be a painful place–a dark place full of sorrow and heartache.
The truth is, we weren’t created to be alone. We were designed to be together; together we can accomplish more. Genesis 2:18 says, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” God desires for us to be connected to other people and have meaningful relationships.
If that’s true, why does God allow seasons of loneliness in our lives?
During my own seasons of loneliness, I learned a few things.
1. God wants to take first place in our lives. God always has our best interest at heart, but if our relationships with others take priority over our relationship with him, he may bring us to a place where we aren’t as involved with others.
Sometimes a good dose of isolation is exactly what we need to put us back on track. – Tweet this!
2. God wants us to grow in our faith. Outside influences could potentially sway us to spend less time in prayer and God’s word. If the people we’re hanging out with cause us to take our focus off of Jesus and stunt our spiritual growth, God may allow those relationships to fizzle out.
3. God wants to push us out of our comfort zone. The people we’re involved with (our friends, spouses, family members, etc…) can hinder us from following Gods lead. God wants us to be ready and willing to boldly answer his call. If we are so comfortable with our surroundings and relationships that they deter us from stepping out in faith, God will take drastic measures to get us where he wants us.
If you are in a season of loneliness, don’t worry. God won’t leave you in the dark pit of isolation forever. When the time is right, and when you least expect it he will bring you back into the light of the social world. He has heard your cry and is working out everything for your good and His Glory.
Remember, we are never really alone. Jesus is always right beside us (Zephaniah 3:17; Joshua 1:9; Hebrews 13:5).
“Lord, help me to grow and learn from you during the season of loneliness. Help me to be patient during this time. May I find comfort in the relationship I have with you. I trust you have my best interest at heart and are working out everything for my good and your glory. Amen!”