The Not-So-Silent Battle In My Son’s Head

For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword...Something wasn’t right. For the second night in a row, my son had gotten out of his bed to tell us he couldn’t sleep. This was so unlike him. My first instinct was to think that he was getting sick.  But when I noticed the way he pressed his hand against his chest, I knew there was more going on.

It was the weekend. My son should have been enjoying his time off from school, but he wasn’t. His mind was fixated on the test he had just taken. He was stressing over whether he had studied enough. He was panicking over each question, wondering if he had answered them correctly. He was worried he had messed up and failed.

There was a battle going on in my son’s head. It was no wonder he couldn’t sleep. He was miserable. It was hard to watch him suffer. I desperately wanted to find a way to fix it. At one point, I considered calling his teacher to see if I could get his grade early. Thankfully I came to my senses. Doing that would only make matters worse and teach my son nothing. The best way I could help him was to put a powerful weapon in his hand that he could use to battle his anxious thoughts.

That weapon is the Word of God.

Hebrews 4:12 tells us that his word is like a two-edged sword. It’s powerful enough to silence any fear or worry our children endure.

Philippians 4:8 encourages us to think about things that are true and praiseworthy. We can teach our children to battle their fears and worries by guiding them to take those negative thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5) and replace them with the positive truths from God’s word.

To help my son do this, I started printing out bible verses and putting them up on the refrigerator. Every time he became worried or fearful, I would take him by the hand and lead him to the fridge. Together we would read the words aloud, pray, and talk about the powerful truth they held. It always made him feel better and gave him a sense of peace (Philippians 4:6-7).

Now that my son is a little older, we no longer stand in front of the fridge quite as much. He still battles with those fearful, worrisome thoughts, but now he knows what to do. When fear and worry start creeping in, he gets in his bible and replaces those thoughts with truth from God’s word.

Moms, we may not be able to prevent our children from experiencing fear and worry, but we can pray for them, and equip them with the tools they need to do battle.



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8 thoughts on “The Not-So-Silent Battle In My Son’s Head

  1. Susan B Mead says:

    Kelly, Thank you. I was SO CLUELESS when my boys were young that I did not equip them with what they needed to be overcomers. I’m so proud of you for putting the right weapons in your son’s hand and head to heal his hurts and heart. Hugs. Susan

    • Kelly Basham says:

      Thank you Susan. I didn’t start doing this until they were a little older. I wish I had started speaking Gods word over them when they were babies. Better late than never!

  2. Valerie says:

    It’s so hard to see our children burdened with worry and fear. What a great reminder that the Bible and prayer is our greatest weapon to overcome worry.

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