What To Do If You Feel Forgotten

Have you ever felt forgotten? 

Chances are, we’ve all experienced someone forgetting our name a time or two. I know I have. We, humans, can be quite forgetful after all.

Once at an event I was attending, I walked up to someone I knew to say hello, and from their expression, I could tell they had no idea who I was.

Do I look that different? Surly I hadn’t changed that much since the last time we met. 

After reminding them who I was, I could tell they still didn’t remember me. I tried to act like it was no big deal, but I was embarrassed and couldn’t wait to get away. After standing there for a few tortuous moments, I politely excused myself and walked away, feeling small and insignificant.

I’m sure they didn’t purposefully un-remember me. Like me, they were probably busy with life and always had a million things swirling in their heads. 

Still, it doesn’t feel good when people don’t remember you. And if I’m honest, feeling this way can lead me to doubt my self-worth if I allow it to.

So what do we do when we start to feel as if we are inconsequential?  

When situations like this arise, causing me to question my significance and worth, I try to remember what God’s word says about it. Filling my mind with his word takes my mind off of my doubt and back on what’s true. 

If we measure our value by what others think about us or whether or not they’ve even given us a second thought, we will continue to feel insignificant when they don’t remember us. However, if we find our worth in Christ, we can hush the doubts and joyfully thrive as we stand firm on the truth in God’s word. 

Let’s read the following verses and reflect on what God’s word tells us: 

We are loved. 1 John 3:1 , 1 John 4:10, John 3:16

We are not alone. Joshua 1:9

We have a purpose. Ephesians 2:10

We are known by God. Psalm 139:1-14 

Friends, we have a God who loves us, will never leave us, gives us purpose, and knows us completely. 

The next time you catch yourself gauging your self-worth by how memorable you are to others, I encourage you to pick one of the above verses (or another encouraging verse of your choosing) and read it aloud to remind yourself of what the scriptures say. Keeping God’s word fresh in our minds will help us quiet our doubts.